Women – What we all needed to know!

It’s never too late to learn about our bodies. U/toocritical55 collated a lot of information and put them all together so please thank her for this information! This post is about sex and women’s front bottoms!

She wanted to share what was learned over the years, and debunk myths. This is mostly aimed at young women. But who knows! Maybe you learn something new as well, even if you don’t fit that category.

80% of women don’t orgasm from penetrative sex!  Especially if you’re young and/or don’t have a regular partner who put the effort in you. It’s not uncommon that ladies in their mid 20 or later never experience it. You’re definitely not alone! The vast majority of women are only able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, the clit is the only thing on the human body that exists for pleasure only, after all. Touching yourself when doing certain sex positions, like doggy, is a great way to reach an orgasm. You can also ask your partner to give you oral, experiment with it! Don’t accept that sex is done when s/he reaches an orgasm when s/he didn’t even try to pleasure you as well. Your pleasure is just as important as theirs.

Most women don’t bleed their first time. In some cultures, a husband’s family demands to see bloody sheets after the wedding night, to prove that the bride was a virgin. This is false. Only 1 in 5 women bleed their first time, I didn’t bleed the first time I had sex. Bleeding or not doesn’t prove if the woman has or hasn’t had sex before. Quick note: If you’re a woman who needs to prove her “virginity” by showing bloody sheets on her wedding night, and you’re worried that you won’t bleed, please DM me. There are multiple ways you can fake bleed, I can help you. Surgery is the worst thing you can do, there are different options that are much better!

Nobody can look inside your vagina and determine if you’ve had sex or not There have been cases of people taking their girlfriends/daughters/wives to a gynaecologist to see if they have stretched their hymen or not. Like the rapper T.I, who took his 18-year-old daughter to a gynaecologist to get answers. The truth is that no doctor or gynaecologist can examine you to see if you’ve had sex or not, that’s something only you know. The hymen can stretch from doing everyday things, running, sports, riding a bike, etc. It has nothing to do with proving if you’ve had sex or not, it’s just impossible to prove that. Some women are born without hymen. Please don’t be discouraged to do sports and other things to avoid stretching your hymen. There’s help out there for women who need to prove their “virginity” to their boyfriend/father/husband this way. No person should ever do that to you. Please DM me if you’re in that situation, I will more than gladly help you. Virginity is a made-up concept to make people feel ashamed about their sexual experiences or lack thereof. Again, nobody can determine if you’ve had sex or not.

“While it’s not possible to tell whether you’re a virgin or not based on the state of your hymen alone, there are ways to detect whether or not you’ve had sex, which is especially important in the case of rape. If you’ve been raped/fear you’ve been raped (if you feel like maybe you’ve been drugged/intoxicated/any other situation), please seek a professional: this is very important for your health, and for any legal action you might want to take.”

This is very important, it’s completely understandable if you’re afraid to report it. But please go to the hospital first thing, don’t shower or change clothes. They will help tremendously, and they won’t force you to report if you don’t want to.

PEE AFTER SEX Peeing after sex can help to flush bacteria out of the urethra, and therefore help avoid a UTI. But don’t perform the ”stop-pee” while you’re peeing to train your perinea… it causes UTI
Always wipe from front to back, to avoid the bacteria from the anus to cause issues to your vagina.
Also never push to pee, it should come just like that

YOUR VAGINA IS SELF-CLEANING! There’s absolutely no need to buy all these feminine products to clean your vagina. The vagina is self-cleaning, that’s what discharge is for. The only thing you should clean your vagina with is water. Using soap or feminine products can mess up the pH of the vagina, and cause UTIs or yeast infections. Your vagina should smell like a vagina, not like roses and strawberries.

Sex shouldn’t hurt your first time People make having sex with men as a woman for the first time sounds like a complete horror story. But I’m happy to say, it’s not! It’s normal to feel a little sore afterwards, but it’s not supposed to be painful. Don’t rush it, have fun with each other. Make out, touch each other, etc. If it’s difficult to insert the penis or if it’s painful, leave it be, and do some more foreplay. The first time I had sex, we had to try multiple times, and it was painful so I asked him to stop. After taking it slow, trying multiple times, and having fun, we had penetrative sex, and it didn’t hurt at all.

Having stains on your clean underwear is normal The vagina has an acidic pH level, that’s why discharge can leave stains on your underwear. It’s completely normal, and that doesn’t mean your underwear isn’t clean.

Semen can mess up your vagina’s pH level The optimal vaginal pH level is between 3.8 and 4.5, which makes it acidic. Semen and soap have an alkaline pH, in the 7-9 range. Because of this, the presence of semen can elevate your vaginal pH long after sex. If you often have problems with UTIs after having sex, this may be the reason why. The best way to deal with this is using a condom.

Lubed condoms can actually mess with your pH levels as well. Many popular brands of lube/condoms can irritate the vagina due to its pH level.

• If a product is CE marked, it’s a confirmation that it’s safe for the bodily environment it was intended for, by European Economic Area (EEA) standards. Without this, there’s no confirmation that your lube product doesn’t contain anything that’s harmful to your vulva skin and vaginal pH.
• Avoid lubes/condoms that have flavors/fragrances such as fruity, floral, candy, etc.
• Avoid: Glycerin(e), Propylene Glycol, Nonoxynol 9, Chlorhexedine Gluconate, Petroleum Oils, Polyquaternium-15, Benzocaine, Sugars & Sugar Alcohols, Ureas.

Here’s a guide about everything to do with lube, I highly recommend it: http://dangerouslilly.com/lube-guide

Having large labia minora is normal Labiaplasty is getting more and more popular amongst young women because they feel like their vulva is “abnormal”. It isn’t, every single vulva is normal. There is not a “right” way for a vulva to look. There’s a woman and activist called mediclit on Twitter, she got a labiaplasty at 18. The procedure left her mutilated, and she no longer have any feeling in her clitoris. If you’re interested in this topic, I suggest checking her out. Please be safe!

It’s totally normal for one boob to be bigger than the other It’s way more common to have asymmetrical boobs than have symmetrical ones. It’s actually very rare to have perfectly symmetrical boobs, don’t worry about it! That being said, if you suddenly develop asymmetry, like a sudden increase or decrease in volume of the boobs, you should get that checked out. That’s especially true if that change comes with other symptoms like skin retraction, thickening, dimpling, or a change in colour of your breast.

You can get pregnant during your period It’s very unlikely, it’s not impossible. Once inside a woman, sperm can wait for an egg for up to a week. Ovulation can occur soon after, or even during, the bleeding phase of a woman’s menstrual cycle, giving the sperm the chance to get lucky. 

The vagina does not become “loose” if you have a lot of sex Ever wondered why men say a woman who’ve slept with 100 men have a “loose” vagina, but a woman who slept with the same man 100 times doesn’t? Me too! This is simply a slut-shaming tactic, it isn’t true. Virginity is a social construct, and who many people you’ve sex with is nobody’s business, and it doesn’t determine your worth. The vagina can push out an entire baby and go back to its normal size, a dick won’t change shit.

Birth control / Contraception pills aren’t only for avoiding pregnancy I had very painful periods as a teenager, had all the horrible side effects you could think of. My mom suggested that I tried birth control. Her suggestion made me uncomfortable, I associated birth control with having sex, and I hadn’t had sex before at that age. She explained that you can go on birth control even if you aren’t sexually active. She was absolutely right. There are many reasons why a woman would choose to go on birth control, preventing pregnancy is only one of many.

Penetrative sex isn’t the only way to have sex This annoys me a lot. As a bisexual woman, I’ve been asked numerous times how two women have sex. They never ask how two men have sex, why? Because a dick is involved. This is especially irritating considering that only 20% of women are able to orgasm that way. To clarify, sex isn’t just being able to orgasm either. But it annoys me that many men totally ignore the part that makes women reach climax, and won’t even consider it sex. Sex is so much more than just penetration, have fun with it, explore.

Vaginismus is an involuntary tensing of the vagina, the keyword on involuntary. Many females cannot have enjoyable penetrating sex because of it. Some stories that have come up talk about how the male partner simply thinks she’s being a prude or for some reason simply won’t support her. Other stories talk about how not-well-known it is, even when asking a doctor.

Therapy (physiotherapists can be certified to do this kind of physical therapy) and exercises can and will help, but you got to give it time. If in a relationship, having a supportive partner is good, since they also could be coached on how to do some of the PT exercises on you that are harder/impossible to do on your own

Menopause is so misunderstood and there is no education for women unless you seek out the information yourself or have a great doctor.

AMAZING for views of diff vaginas! http://gynodiversity.com/uploads/Classification_of_the_anatomical_variation_in_female_external_genitalia.pdf

VAGINA != VULVA. we commonly tell ”vagina” to name the women’s junk, but the vagina is the canal to the cervix, the inner part, the outer part is called vulva (and you can wash it with soap)

PMS and Periods evolve during life : Periods at 11 don’t last the same amount of time, and there is not the same amount of blood as at 45, also the pain change, you can have spotting before/after that appears, and so on, it’s normal (but you should never bleed outside the periods unless you have some spotting during ovulation or egg implantation)

PMS can be: being depressed, sore breasts, being constipated or diarrhoea (the famous period poop that occurs in the very beginning), acne, insomnia… and a lot more

Ovulation usually occurs at half your cycle (first day being the first day of periods), so if you got your period every 30 days, ovulation occurs usually around the 15th day after the first day of your periods (that said don’t use this information as BC since sperm can live like 5 days, and that your body is not an exact science and influenced by a lot of factors.) some women can feel it, some other don’t.

Vaginal discharge 101 I used Mama Doctor Jones video about discharge to provide pictures to better show what I mean. Thank your everybody who suggested her channel in the comments, very informative, and I highly recommend checking her out, you can find her video here

Discharge is a completely normal bodily function that cleans and protects the vagina. Your vaginal discharge can vary depending on your cycle, and it can vary from person to person. Some of us have a lot, some of us have less, it’s completely normal. I do not recommend wearing pantyliners on a daily basis to prevent getting discharge on your underwear, it can irritate the skin of the vulva.

Healthy/Normal discharge The colour of vaginal discharge is more commonly white or off-white, but sometimes it can have a bit of a yellow hue, and sometimes it can have a more transparent look. Here are some examples of normal consistencies and colours of discharge.

In the absence of any other symptoms, these consistencies are completely normal:

• Watery/Clear
• Gel-like “stringy” discharge, normally happends before ovulation.
• Also consistencies that I included in the photo.

Your discharge may be a brownish colour, this is also normal, reference photo here This is called spotting. Spotting is defined as light vaginal bleeding that happens outside of your regular periods. This kind of brown discharge can often happen at the end of your cycle. It’s old blood mixed with discharge, which creates a brown-like colour.

Abnormal discharge

First of all, it’s important to recognise what your discharge usually smell like. It shouldn’t smell foul, but it’s normal to have a smell or lack of it. If it does have a funny smell, it’s a sign that you should get it checked up.

Cottage cheese-like chunks in your vaginal discharge look like this

This can often signify a yeast infection. Especially if it’s followed by any of these symptoms:

• Genital Itching
• Swelling
• Redness
• Burning sensation while peeing or having penetrative sex
• Your discharge might smell a little “off” if you have a yeast infection, but it can also have no odor at all.

TREATMENT: If it’s your first time having a yeast infection, or if you’re unsure if it is a yeast infection or not, make an appointment to your doctor.

Otherwise, you can buy an over-the-counter yeast treatment. (Not recommended for pregnant women, book an appointment) If your symptoms persist, book an appointment.

Don’t be embarrassed if you have a yeast infection, it’s very common but unpleasant. Don’t be afraid to seek treatment.

To reduce your risk of vaginal yeast infections:

• Wear underwear that has a cotton crotch and doesn’t fit too tightly.

Avoid:

• Tight-fitting pantyhose
• Douching, which removes some of the normal bacteria in the vagina that protect you from infection
• Scented feminine products, including bubble bath, pads and tampons

The following may increase your likelihood of yeast infections:

• Stress
• Diabetes
• Use of birth control pills
• Pregnancy
• Antibiotics, especially prolonged use over 10 days

A lot of yellow discharge that looks like this especially if you have other symptoms could indicate chlamydia. A slight yellow hue can be normal in certain situations. But if you feel other symptoms, or if you recently had sex with a new person, you should get that checked out. Remember! Some people don’t have any symptoms when they have chlamydia. Untreated chlamydia can result in serious health complications, such as pelvic inflammatory disease. That’s why it’s very important to use a condom when having sex and get tested if you have any doubts.

If you suspect that you have any kind of STI or STDs, seek medical treatment.

Lime green discharge, that kinda looks like mucus in my opinion, the reference here And here If you have a new sex partner or in any situation where you can be at risk for STI or STDs, this can indicate gonorrhoea or trichomoniasis.

Symptoms of trichomoniasis: – Itching, burning, redness or soreness of the genitals

-Discomfort with urination

-A change in their vaginal discharge (i.e., thin discharge or increased volume) that can be clear, white, yellowish, or greenish with an unusual fishy smell

Symptoms of gonorrhoea: – an unusual vaginal discharge, which may be thin or watery and green or yellow in colour

• Pain or a burning sensation when peeing
• Pain or tenderness in the lower abdominal area (this is less common)
• Bleeding between periods, heavier periods and bleeding after sex (this is less common)

If you suspect that you have any kind of STI or STD, seek medical attention.

If your discharge has a thin, grey colour, it can indicate bacterial vaginosis. Couldn’t find a good reference photo for this one, sorry about that.

What is bacterial vaginosis? Bacterial vaginosis is a type of vaginal inflammation caused by the overgrowth of bacteria naturally found in the vagina, which upsets the natural balance.

Symptoms: – Grey-like discharge

-Discharge has a strong fishy odour

• Burning feeling when you pee
• Itching

50% of women do not have any symptoms.

When to see a doctor:

-You have vaginal discharge that’s new and associated with an odour or fever. Your doctor can help determine the cause and identify signs and symptoms.

• You’ve had vaginal infections before, but the color and consistency of your discharge seems different this time.
• You have multiple sex partners or a recent new partner. Sometimes, the signs and symptoms of a sexually transmitted infection are similar to those of bacterial vaginosis.
• You try self-treatment for a yeast infection with an over-the-counter treatment and your symptoms persist.

Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS) TSS is a rare but life-threatening condition caused by bacteria getting into the body and releasing harmful toxins. This can affect both men, women and children. Risk factors for toxic shock syndrome include skin wounds, surgery, and the use of tampons. Having your tampons in for longer than 8-12 hours can increase the risk of infection or TSS.

Symptoms: The symptoms of toxic shock syndrome start suddenly and get worse quickly. They include:

• A high temperature
• Flu-like symptoms, such as a headache, feeling cold, feeling tired or exhausted, an aching body, a sore throat and a cough
• Feeling and being sick
• Diarrhoea
• A widespread sunburn-like rash
• Lips, tongue and the whites of the eyes turning a bright red
• Dizziness or fainting
• Difficulty breathing
• Confusion

TSS is very rare, but these symptoms should absolutely not be ignored, if you experience these symptoms, contact medical emergencies immediately. If you’re using a tampon while experiencing these symptoms, remove it straight away. Inform medical staff if have used a tampon while experiencing these symptoms.

This post isn’t mine. I have stolen a lot of the content from Reddit from https://www.reddit.com/user/toocritical55 as it came up when I was researching.

That’s it from her. Please check out the original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/n0d1sk/things_every_woman_should_know_about_her_body/

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